It's funny how the dynamics of friendship can change so erratically.
The Gruesome Threesome: Dynamics of Friendship Trios
When I was in grade five, I hung around with two close friends, Sophia and Diane. But it would be misleading to say we got along. Most often, it was two against one. On one occasion, Diane and I formed an alliance for two weeks, leaving Sophia on the sidelines at recess. Then Sophia and I got back together. To emphasize the point to Diane, I wrote her a nasty letter and put it in h
er locker. I still remember how it began: Dear Diane: I hate you. Sophia can’t stand to look at you...Sooner or later, most children find their way into such threesomes — and into the drama and tears they spawn.
“Some triangles thrive and survive.” That said, Lynn and other experts acknowledge the triangle’s inherent vulnerability. Just what is it about three that brings out the monster in children? “The most basic human relationships — husband and wife, parent and child — involve two people,” says Wolkoff. “We’re wired for dyadic relationships. Adding a third person makes it 10 times harder to keep everybody happy.”
I want to thrive and survive.
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